redemption.

everyone always judges and labels one another, they can't help it. it's part of human nature thats why there are so many different words to categorise people. standardising them. stereotyping etc. the fact is even when one person is made up of so many different ways to describe people, people always look at the most negative aspects and label them. for example, you could be a volunteer worker your whole life but one day you slip up and accidently hit someone with a car. you'll be the person who killed someone not somebody who gave their life to helping other people. it's as simple as that and that is why one mistake or one action can change peoples perspective of you forever.

first impressions are really important, when someone forms an image of you that image is most likely to stay with them for the majority of the period you know them and determines whether one mistake or one action, if not too severe, will change their perspective of you, thats why i always try to be nice to everyone around me nowdays even though my feelings and heart have grown numb. i think that people always have negative perceptions about me and thats why i dont have many friends or people around me. maybe its more to do with the fact that i dont care if i have friends or people around me anymore. i can be nice to everyone around me but the fact is that they're still going to disappear from my life and forget about me also. i'm not someone whos easily remembered. memories involving me must be easy to forget. i'm just someone whos easy to forget, whos actions mean little to nothing and i'm just a bystander in other people's lives.

i've lost the will to do a lot of things anymore and everything seems to take more effort than it needs to but i keep pushing on smiling because thats the only way to hide this insecure anxiety thats pent up inside me and hurting and tightening around my heart, i find it hard to breathe normally, maybe i have cancer who knows. it wouldnt surprise me, luck never favoured me. i know how to behave infront of certain people, i know what sort of face to put on... it hurt the other day when i was feeling off and i wasn't putting on that face properly and people at work were asking me what was wrong with me, i don't look as happy as normal. the fact is im not happy, i never was happy and i find it hard to ever be happy throughout my whole life, im barely even content at times. i can't even string my sentences together properly. lately, weeks are just blurring together. i worked over 50 hrs this week and i don't even feel tired. i've played LoL twice in the last month and i don't even know what i've been doing with my time anymore.

i removed everyone who was following and who i was following from my blogger and changed my chatbox. trying a fresh start doesn't mean anything not like anyone reads my blog anyway. its just my own personal box of introvertedness.

reality hits you hard. one of the hardest things in life is acknowledging and realising that you're not good enough for something, that you never were and never will be able to do something. you spend your whole life trying to improve yourself, you get educated, you learn life lessons and try to improve but when you face the reality that you aren't good enough for something, that you don't reach expectations or that anything you believed made you superior to someone else is really just bullshit then it hits you hard.

i think i am lucky in some aspects which shouldn't be taken advantage of. my parents could afford to and continue to give a good upbringing and lifestyle. i was able to get education and extracurricular activities. i am smarter than the average person, i was able to go to a good school and university. i am better looking than the average person. i don't know whether it's because im eurasian or the fact that i'm tall but i get compliments occasionally even though it never leads to anything. and lastly, believe it or not i'd like to believe that i have a good personality. at least a caring one.

the thing is that i don't want to put effort into caring about people who have hurt me, abandoned me or don't regard me as someone who can be respected equally anymore but the fact is that i can't stop caring and it hits me as hard as knowing that i'm not enough. people can spout all their self esteem bullshit but facts are fact. when you lose you lose and theres no return. i am inadequate and its a fact. i am someone who people look at once and move on with their lives. there is no one permanent in my life apart from my family and even then.... its hitting me real hard right now. i used to think that even though i was lucky in some aspects, if i was able to care and treat people well then people might like me or enjoy talking to me at the least but.... i'm really really hurting right now. i can't even string my sentences together properly. i give so much for other people without looking at myself, im always giving and i give people second chances, i give people third chances, fourth chances and even when i'm still treated shit i still face people with a smile on my face, not because someone told me to but because i honestly believe that if im nice enough to other people then i will be able to make myself and the people around me happier but right now, i know i'm just fucking with myself. i'm honestly done with everything right now. this point on is just living for the sake of living. i stepped over my own limits and i'm falling into a world where nothing matters anymore. when can i escape this reality and fall into my world of dreams.

i was reading back on some of my previous blogposts. some i feel like i was still a little young and naive and sure, every single thing im put in a different situation but overall, im still facing the same problems and the same and the same and the same again.

there is still the same insecurities, but they've dimmed. there is no reason for me to feel anything regarding them, i think overall i've stopped caring. the problems that used to annoy me, i just don't give a fuck anymore and the rushed pace that i felt like i was once in just numbed down to nothing.

there is still the same pessimistic attitude yet i'm able to cover it up better. maybe working around different types of people allowed me to change my attitude towards other people and i think i'm able to act more friendly to all types of people because even when i meet new people, i'm still judgmental but previously my actions were affected from my judgments now, i really don't care... there's still obvious things i'll stay away from but overall i feel like i become nicer from an external perspective.

everything is based on perspective. things can be perceived so differently yet be the same thing, thats why when you're facing the same problems people don't understand they're facing similar or sometimes the exact same problem just in a different circumstance which is why theres so many times people say i would have done this or i would have done that but then they don't realise in the actual situation.

id like to say that at some point in my life was the best point of my life but in reality, those best points of your life are meant to lead up to the present. it shouldn't stay in the past and if you can't recreate those memories in the present then they are just your past memories and aren't the best points in your life even if you felt the happiest in them. i'm not so naive anymore to believe in those fairytale like scenarios. im done with all of that and everything is just real and with that reality i stopped caring about things more. i feel dulled a little emotionally but i can cover it up. i dont even know if im covering it up because everything just feels so... unenergised. i dont know how else to put it. the flare in my life has dimmed down and just when i thought it might reignite it goes back to just getting sparks thrown at it every now and then. wish i could jump into some fantasy. wheres my life changing event.

all emotion we generate inside ourselves, its from ourselves that we feel how we do. we are scared of things because we feel afraid of them or fear that something will happen. we're sad because we don't like the feeling of something happening, sometimes it's the fear that makes us sad and sometimes we are just sad because we don't feel comfortable about ourselves.

right now, im not feeling comfortable about myself. i know in my life theres nothing wrong but something feels wrong in my stomach or head or... i just dont feel right. i think in life we just want to be content... theres so many things that i could have said, or should say, or want to do, or want to say... but actions don't follow, my body doesn't follow and sometimes i just don't know what the fuck i'm doing anymore frankly and i'm just going on with whatever is happening. i'm really messed up sometimes. it feels like the weight of everything is just pushing down on me and i dont even know why i'm pushing up or why i'm there in the first place.